8 months, 3 weeks ago
After all of the moving-day aftershocks have subsided, you may feel as though there is something missing from your life that is weighing you down. Of course it is normal to feel a lot of mixed emotions before, during, and after the move for plenty of reasons, you might find that the one thing you are lacking is a sense of belonging. This longing for companionship may vary in intensity depending on how far you moved from the place you were used to. After everything is set up in your immediate life, such as schools for the kids and unpacking of your new residence, you can devote a little more attention to tackling the nagging feelings the you caught in your new place.
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The amount of time it takes after the move in order for you to feel completely settled in will say from person to person, circumstance to circumstance. Usually, moves that are only short distances away from the old location tend to leave movees with little or no sense of displacement, since everything that is familiar to them is still relatively close by.
Moving in and of itself is very stressful. More than unpacking and getting physically settled in to your new home, you need to begin the process of settling in emotionally. Making home feel like home requires that you establish strong bonds with the community around you, including neighbors, business owners, garden workers, or just about anyone you come across.
For some people, settling in to a new home is a very difficult process because not a lot of people have time to build bonds with the community around them. If you are one of these people, then you’re in luck. We will be discussing different ways that you can feel more at home in your new home.
First and foremost, you will have to step a little bit beyond your comfort zone in order to grow and thrive in this new environment. If this is something you struggle with, then push yourself to do small things that you wouldn't normally do. A good way to do this is to shop at a farmers market on weekend mornings instead of stopping by an empty store at 8pm on Monday night.
Next, you can join anything and everything in your community (time permitting, of course). Maybe try a yoga class in the park or a book club on your street. Or, find something that caters to your interests.
Do some volunteer work. Helping out in your new community is a great way to meet people who are also interesting in giving back. Check on the local classifieds for volunteer opportunities, or take this as a chance to spark conversation with your new neighbors.
You may find it easier to join a group of likeminded people. If you have a dog, look for dog-walking groups. If you are religious, then find a place or worship near your new home.
Take some time to walk around and get out there. You’ll have a great time finding new places to linger, and this will give you something in common with others as well.
It takes an average of 23 days for someone to become accustomed to their new surroundings. If you make an effort to get out and get around, the pain of moving will quickly dissipate.